22 January, 2009

罪过

上学,对孩子来说,是大事。
是与他们熟悉的家庭生活相反的经验。
学校,陌生。
环境新,人多而陌生。

很少人第一天到新公司上班便得心应手,尤其是社会新鲜人,一个小孩,犹有过之。
然而,学校不能等。
给你一篮彩笔,要你把规定的图案填色,不能乱彩。
“可是我不会彩色。”
学校不能等,这样的年龄应该会填色。不能等你握笔,不能示范填色,甚至连允许你乱彩都没有,更别谈鼓励。
学校等不及你上学才握笔,学习怎么写ABC。
而要求是小孩都该懂得写自己的名字。
“我都不会写。”
学校忘了每个孩子都不一样?
学习的东西也不一样。
学校不愿慢慢等你学?

是不是家里才是学习本领的地方,学校是个发挥的场所?
我也很想知道。
拿以前来跟现在比较是不合理的,但是学校,应该不会跟以前一样,是个让人期待周末的地方吧?



4 comments:

  1. 如果那所幼儿园的老师是这种态度,我建议换学校。通常私人幼儿园的教师素质比较好,学费,并不会太高。
    我两个孩子在幼儿园,都是玩玩玩,娱乐于学,现在老二在K1,天天都很开心。

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  2. 婷婷,谢谢你的建议.换学校是一个办法,但我不能确定附近的私人学校就一定令人满意,毕竟孩子总会碰到有待解决的问题。成长的过程就得经历苦痛,到了哪所学校都得面对。

    我只是希望自己有足够的智慧和能力来帮助她。希望她不抗拒上学,其他,可以慢慢来。

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  3. Yee, nowadays lots of kindergarten are like that as a lot of modern parents somehow prefer school which is very academically oriented. That's why schools now are getting kiasu in terms of academic to meet the commercial need. I even heard they are parents who keep asking school to give more homework to thier kids. Only pity the kids as even before they can walk, they are asked to fly. Sigh!

    In the montesorries school that Hwi Hwi attends,they don't stress so much on academic but allow kids to play and learn at the same time. Most important is they allow kids to learn at their own pace. They don't have homework too. So, she loves school a lot and has quite a number of good friends by now.

    I do hope that JJ can adapt well in kindergarten and loves school. You don't worry too much too, just be with her and everything will be all right, ok?

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  4. 真,父母难为,这句话越听越知道其中的苦。既想她开心,又得让她不抗拒学校,不是父母的力量可为,有时得碰上一个肯真正为教育作点事的老师。
    至少,对幼儿采取比较开放的态度,而不是样样都限制,然后填鸭式,看了就叫人泄气。
    总之,父母难为。

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